CREATE LASTING CHANGE
Updated: Jan 9, 2020
The New Year is upon us which means you may be thinking about making some positive changes in your life. If it brings up any feelings of resistance or anxiety, you’re totally normal.
Sticking to resolutions and creating lasting change is no easy feat. If you’re anything like I used to be, you set some good intentions and then end up right back where you started within weeks.
Last year I was turning 42 and set a goal to get in the best shape of my life. Having some knowledge and tools to manage my mind made all the difference for me and expanded my whole life.
Here’s what I learned:
Separate your worth
It’s common to think that when you have the perfect body, the perfect job, the perfect relationship and are the best version of yourself you will feel good about yourself. But that’s a lie. The only thing that will make you feel good about yourself is your thoughts about yourself.
You are worthy because you are here, being human and trying your best. You are worthy exactly the way you are.
Have a compelling reason
Your thoughts create your feelings which drive your actions and create the results that you want or don’t want in your life. So, if your goal is to lose weight it’s more helpful to have a reason that is rooted in self-love and excites and energizes you rather than one that is driven by self-hatred and leaves you feeling exhausted and defeated to take any positive action to achieve it. There’s a big difference between “I’m going to take good care of my body so that I can still run after my kids ten years from now” and “I can’t stand my body.” You are also working against years of habitual thought patterns, so you need a reason that feels so compelling that it helps you through the tough times when you want to give up.
Set one or two goals at a time
Going all in on a goal one hard enough. Choice overload is a cognitive phenomenon where if you have to many options you end up getting overwhelmed and not being able to focus on any of your goals. Instead, filter out what matters to you the most to commit to and go all in.
Remove failure as an option
People often spend a lot of time thinking about their goals and dreams but never acting on them because of their fear of failure. If you don’t achieve your goals or revert to old habits, you don’t have to make it mean anything negative about yourself. Use it as information and get curious about what went wrong and how you could do better and think differently to have what you want. This mindset frees up your mental and emotional energy so that you can focus on creating exactly what you want in your life.
I use and teach these tools to achieve personal and professional goals because they work. They have helped me transform my body in ways that feel like love instead of self-hatred and run my coaching practice from a place of excitement rather than fear of failure. More importantly, I have learned that with some learned skills and consistent practice, I can do hard things which has completely expanded my life and capacity to feel joy and peace.
If you’d like some help rewiring your brain to create lasting positive change in your life, join my 6 week group coaching program that starts in February. Get on the waitlist here: Waitlist
I’d also love for you to join me in person for my mindfulness workshop on January 9th. Click here for the details: Workshop