After having my son a few years ago, like most new mothers, I had a bit of an identity crisis. I couldn’t reconcile how to be a mother, a lover, a friend, a worker and myself and feel good at the same time.
Four years and some life coaching later, it’s clearer to me now and I feel in control of my life and my happiness.
I know I’m not alone. A lot of women tell me that they have lost their identity and don’t understand why they feel unhappy in the life, relationships and careers that they once thrived and felt so much joy in.
No doubt, having kids changes your life in an instant. Your body changes, you relate to your partner differently, your freedom is limited and your energy level and temperament changes. Life is not what it used to be.
As you immerse yourself into this new life, life goes on autopilot. But at some point, you miss feeling like your old care-free self and find yourself wanting more for your life. And that just seems like an impossible feat given your circumstances.
Here’s the truth: you don’t ever lose your identity. The core of who you are hasn’t changed. The only thing that has changed is your thoughts about yourself and the possibilities for your life.
The good news is you can change them again to ones that serve you.
A lot of people suffer from lives that aren’t as good as they want them to be because they don’t think it’s possible or they are afraid of failing. But these are just optional thoughts that are keeping you stuck.
If you believe it’s not possible or that you will fail, your brain will find evidence to support that. It will come up will all kinds of excuses and distract you from even seeing the possibilities and creative solutions.
But, if you believe that it may be possible and can embrace your fears, you will free up a lot of mental energy to see the potential and feel motivated to create more of what you want in your life.
And aligning your life to what you want and feeling good about it has nothing to do with anything external to you - not your partner or your child or your job.
Everything you need is within you.
You create it with your mind.
You create your future with every thought you think and every action you take.
Whether it’s changing your career or healing your relationship or just having more time to yourself, guilt-free – start by recognizing what you believe about the potential of it and then question whether it's objectively true or not.
What are your thoughts about having what you want in life? Are they increasing your misery or empowering you?
If you’d like some help with creating more of what you want in your life, even though you don’t think it’s possible, sign up for a FREE SESSION with me. I'd love to help.