TAKE IT PERSONALLY
Have you ever had a friend or a relative or a co-worker say or do something that triggers such intense emotions that you become defensive or write just them off as crazy pants and walk away?
It’s natural to turn away from the uncomfortable feelings that arise in these kinds of interactions, so we are quick to dismiss them as having nothing to do with us and everything to do with them.
I think we have it backwards.
Other people don’t cause our feelings, our thoughts do.
It’s what we make their words and behavior mean about us that cause us to feel things like anger or frustration and a lot of mental drama if we resist it.
With some curiosity and the right tools, you can do the deeper work of uncovering and shifting the thoughts that cause this discomfort. The result is emotional freedom and ability to consciously choose how you want to show up and relate to others.
It’s from this place of clarity that you can allow others to think and behave the way they do without making it mean anything negative about them or you or trying to change it.
This is how we truly accept others.
So, the next time you feel triggered, take it personally. Why does it bother you so much? What thoughts are causing your negative emotions? Are you willing to do the work to transform them to feel better for good?
If you would like to learn how to feel less stressed about other people's behavior so you can have more mental and emotional energy to focus on what matters to you, reach out, I’d love to help.