Updated: Feb 29
One of my greatest life challenges is learning to love.
Myself, in relationships and even in parenting.
My brain tries to stifle my feelings of love because it’s afraid of being vulnerable and powerless to the pain of loss and rejection.
I know I’m not alone.
A lot of human suffering comes from denying ourselves the feeling of love because we’re afraid of losing it or think that we or someone else must be a certain way before we can feel love.
But here's the thing: your ability to be happy and feel love is never dependent on another person and can never be lost.
Your feeling of love comes from the thoughts you think.
This is so empowering because whether we feel love is always completely in our control.
So, we get to feel this beautiful emotion anytime we want.
Even if we’re angry or hate someone or our self.
But feeling love is a skill.
We have to purposely choose love and manage our thoughts to feel love more often and increase our ability to feel it.
And it’s a skill worth developing because being hateful, angry or indifferent doesn’t change your circumstance or other people, it just keeps you feeling miserable.
Choosing to feel love is never a bad choice. It’s for your own benefit, so you feel amazing and have a better experience.
An experience that is more aligned to your authentic state of love.
So, this Valentine’s day, give yourself the ultimate gift of feeling unconditional love.
Notice how you’re feeling towards yourself or someone or something that is challenging you.
Recognize that feelings like anger and resentment are optional, and you are choosing not to feel love.
How would feeling love change the experience you’re having?
Even if just for a split second.
If you’d like to learn how to choose love more of the time so you can feel better and more aligned to your authentic self, sign up for a FREE SESSION with me. I'd love to help.
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